Hey friends!! Hope you’re all still making the best of each day. If not, I’m sending lots of light and love your way.
Speaking of love, let’s jump right in to today’s topic. In one of my last post I said, “..if I’ve ever said I love you, I meant that shit and I’m always going to love you. The effect to which I love you may change but the love will definitely always be there”.
Now, this isn’t always the case for people but for me I can say it’s 100% true. This goes for old friendships and old lovers.
Some people find it problematic to still love people of your past. For me, I find it healthy. I gave my love to those people because I saw something in them that was deserving of my love. Either I saw a need in them and I tried to fill it with my love or I wanted to reciprocate the love they gave me.
As the years go on and we’ve grown apart, I’ve watched them be better for other friends and other lovers. I’ve congratulated them on their dreams coming into fruition and achieving milestones. Seeing them happy has been a joy for me.
Life is too short to hold on to past hurt and heartbreak. I’ve learned that holding onto hurt doesn’t serve any purpose in my life. When you really sit and think about it, you’ll find that it doesn’t serve any real purpose in your life either. I know there’s some people who say their hurt fuels them to be greater but I’m challenging that theory. Hear me out.. You think it’s fueling you but it’s really eating at you because you’re continuously harboring those feelings without actually dealing with the root of the hurt. One of my motto’s is, “You have to go through it to grow through it”. If you aren’t dealing with the root of the hurt, how can you get through it?
So if you’re still holding on to a painful past, in the words of my nieces homegirl Elsa, “Let it goooooo”.
Here’s my advice:
- Figure out WHY it still causes you pain. Get to the root of the problem. Maybe you have trust issues or attachments issues that stem from your childhood.
- Deal with it! Maybe you can talk to the person and get some closure, maybe not. Maybe you finally realized that you need therapy. (I highly suggest everyone try it at least once. Click the links to find out why teletherapy might be for you and how to find the right therapist for you.)
- Be happy!! Love them for the good things and memories they left in your life and forgive everything else. There’s a power in love that’s indescribable.
1 Corinthians 16:14 says, “Do everything in love”. That’s something I really try to live by. Some days it is hard but most days it’s as second nature as breathing. Love is powerful.
I try to tell all my people I love them on a regular basis. Even if people I love are no longer in my life, I hope they know that I loved them then and I’ll love them always.
Until next time; Be You. Do You. LOVE YOU💜